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What are they doing that is scary? I like the first answer--offer to pick them up--but that won't stop them from driving elsewhere. Do they drive for the company? If so, it is the supervisor's job to take that duty away--not yours.
If they have family, it would be a good idea to have them be the ones to talk to the person about the concern you have. How close is your friendship with your co-worker? Is there a trust relationship there? It is very hard for an older person to give up the independence of driving, so if you are the only one available, then be very gentle. Perhaps start out with telling the co - worker, did he/she know that insurance rates are discounted with a certificate for having attended a seminar for older drivers? AAA could give you the contact information.
To tell you the truth, this question would be a lot easier to give appropriate suggestions if you were a little more specific regarding why you feel this driver is unsafe on the highway. If you want to e mail me with more specifics, I will be happy to assist you further.
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ask them if you could pick them up to save them on gas.
Just start your conversation by afirming your a friend and are concern with there well being as well as others. could they live knowing because they are older and reflex's disapate that they killed a child in the street chacing a ball because they couldn't hit the breaks fast enough?
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personal thought
its one of the freedoms you have as you get older. if the person is a bad driver, the state will in time. doctors are now liable to report patients who can't or should drive anymore whether its from medications they must take to certain conditions. you can let them know of your concern for them in driving if a medication or condition is causing them to not be able to drive right. by doing in tackful in a friendship way, you won't make them feel like your being a busy body. you could lose their friendship. its like letting a blind person drive. at some point the doctors have to state your not able to and report it. if they don't, its like serving a drunk more beer and letting them drive. your liable.
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know many who went through it.
They have it today on yahoo main page you should go look at it!
have actually dealt with this issue twice. once with my grandmother and once with my father. In NY and Mich.( and I assume elsewhere ) you go to the family doctor, or their internist, or even specialist and ask that they contact the state and ask them to revoke the patients drivers license.
Make sure your loved one is NOT with you and make all of your concerns clear to the MD. The state is not goingg to do this to your loved one on your say so. In NY they wouldn't even have my dad come in for a repeat drivers test. Dad could pull it together mentally for periods of time and passed his eye exam etc. But he was totally out to lunch! Once during road construction on a local road that was being moved for highway access he drove into a field where the road used to be and kept on goin! A neighbor called to tell my brother and I as my mother would not hear of him losing his license and "his dignity".
With one phone call to the MD it was done. And come to find out he knew Dad shouldn't be driving, but could not take action unless asked by family. He advised my brother and I play dumb and let him take the fallout
Why don't you ask her/him if they think that they are safe to drive? Get them to evaluate their ability/inability to continue driving. This will, however have to be done with discretion. Maybe after the subject of traffic/driving is in place in an ongoing conversation. Ask them when they feel an older driver is no longer safe to drive. Maybe this will get them doing some self-evaluation. Good Luck. This is a TUFF one.
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My head.
mined your own business...unless you are willing to offer alternatives yourself for an extended length of time.....ex:
you will schedule driving for them once a week for personal errands and will transport them back and forth to work. You will also need to have a back-up person to fill in for you. Don't advice people unless you are willing to involve yourself. Otherwise you are just being a know it all.
I am not sure you do. As a co-worker (as opposed to close friend), you are taking it upon yourself to act in a capacity for which you are neither qualified nor responsible. This responsibility more likely rests with company management or a family member. If the co-worker is driving erratically, you should talk to your management and let them address the issue. Often, there are HR specialists or other resources available that offer professional help and support.
Likewise, you might want to approach a family member, although there is a risk of being perceived the wrong way. The bottom line is that you are presuming that your sense of concern/caring will be received as such; a questionable assumption at best. The issue of driving is huge for most people and giving up the right to drive represents a major reduction in an individual's independence. No "older" co worker wants to face this loss and to have a co-worker bring it up is embarrassing. Using management or family provides everyone some level of protection.
Tell them in a nice way. Tell them the truth. Tell them that they are wonderful, however, just as every phase of life comes to pass with humanity eventually driving can be very dangerous. Let them know you are only saying it for their benefit because you couldn't stand it if something happened. Let them know that you have the ultimate respect for them as a person and you value their experiences, their mentoring, and their intelligence. But gently remind them that often physical issues begin to endanger them on the road. Tell them it is certainly not their mind; rather it is because they can't see as well as they used to, or they shake a little, or they are hearing impaired (whatever is going on). Tell them this has been very difficult for you to discuss but you care about them enough to approach the subject. If they become agitated, simply tell them to at least give it some thought. The eventuality of it is that the DMV at some point is going to revoke their right to drive. Heck, doctors can do it too. I have a neurologist and he told the DMV that I have a bad leg and they took my license away. Just tell that person that it is an eventuality and a reality, such has been with every other part of life. Good luck. My grandmother was furious so my Dad disabled her car. And the other Granny is so dramatic that we dramatically recounted every horrible thing we could think of on the roadways. Danger at every turn. She never drove again. But a co-worker is different.
Unless your relationship to this older person is something more than a co-worker, I don't think it is your place to convince them not to drive. If you are really concerned about their safety on the road perhaps you should try to contact a family member or a very close personal friend of this older person and tell them your concerns. It is right for the family to address this issue. Maybe alright for a close friend to address this issue but not appropriate for a co-worker unless this individual is truly alone in the world with no family or friends to look out for him/her. In that case, Speak to them openly and honestly and ask for their cooperation. If they refuse to stop driving contact DMV and ask them what their procedure is for terminating driving privileges of the elderly.
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Answers:
What are they doing that is scary? I like the first answer--offer to pick them up--but that won't stop them from driving elsewhere. Do they drive for the company? If so, it is the supervisor's job to take that duty away--not yours.
If they have family, it would be a good idea to have them be the ones to talk to the person about the concern you have. How close is your friendship with your co-worker? Is there a trust relationship there? It is very hard for an older person to give up the independence of driving, so if you are the only one available, then be very gentle. Perhaps start out with telling the co - worker, did he/she know that insurance rates are discounted with a certificate for having attended a seminar for older drivers? AAA could give you the contact information.
To tell you the truth, this question would be a lot easier to give appropriate suggestions if you were a little more specific regarding why you feel this driver is unsafe on the highway. If you want to e mail me with more specifics, I will be happy to assist you further.
Other Answers:
ask them if you could pick them up to save them on gas.
Just start your conversation by afirming your a friend and are concern with there well being as well as others. could they live knowing because they are older and reflex's disapate that they killed a child in the street chacing a ball because they couldn't hit the breaks fast enough?
Source(s):
personal thought
its one of the freedoms you have as you get older. if the person is a bad driver, the state will in time. doctors are now liable to report patients who can't or should drive anymore whether its from medications they must take to certain conditions. you can let them know of your concern for them in driving if a medication or condition is causing them to not be able to drive right. by doing in tackful in a friendship way, you won't make them feel like your being a busy body. you could lose their friendship. its like letting a blind person drive. at some point the doctors have to state your not able to and report it. if they don't, its like serving a drunk more beer and letting them drive. your liable.
Source(s):
know many who went through it.
They have it today on yahoo main page you should go look at it!
have actually dealt with this issue twice. once with my grandmother and once with my father. In NY and Mich.( and I assume elsewhere ) you go to the family doctor, or their internist, or even specialist and ask that they contact the state and ask them to revoke the patients drivers license.
Make sure your loved one is NOT with you and make all of your concerns clear to the MD. The state is not goingg to do this to your loved one on your say so. In NY they wouldn't even have my dad come in for a repeat drivers test. Dad could pull it together mentally for periods of time and passed his eye exam etc. But he was totally out to lunch! Once during road construction on a local road that was being moved for highway access he drove into a field where the road used to be and kept on goin! A neighbor called to tell my brother and I as my mother would not hear of him losing his license and "his dignity".
With one phone call to the MD it was done. And come to find out he knew Dad shouldn't be driving, but could not take action unless asked by family. He advised my brother and I play dumb and let him take the fallout
Why don't you ask her/him if they think that they are safe to drive? Get them to evaluate their ability/inability to continue driving. This will, however have to be done with discretion. Maybe after the subject of traffic/driving is in place in an ongoing conversation. Ask them when they feel an older driver is no longer safe to drive. Maybe this will get them doing some self-evaluation. Good Luck. This is a TUFF one.
Source(s):
My head.
mined your own business...unless you are willing to offer alternatives yourself for an extended length of time.....ex:
you will schedule driving for them once a week for personal errands and will transport them back and forth to work. You will also need to have a back-up person to fill in for you. Don't advice people unless you are willing to involve yourself. Otherwise you are just being a know it all.
I am not sure you do. As a co-worker (as opposed to close friend), you are taking it upon yourself to act in a capacity for which you are neither qualified nor responsible. This responsibility more likely rests with company management or a family member. If the co-worker is driving erratically, you should talk to your management and let them address the issue. Often, there are HR specialists or other resources available that offer professional help and support.
Likewise, you might want to approach a family member, although there is a risk of being perceived the wrong way. The bottom line is that you are presuming that your sense of concern/caring will be received as such; a questionable assumption at best. The issue of driving is huge for most people and giving up the right to drive represents a major reduction in an individual's independence. No "older" co worker wants to face this loss and to have a co-worker bring it up is embarrassing. Using management or family provides everyone some level of protection.
Tell them in a nice way. Tell them the truth. Tell them that they are wonderful, however, just as every phase of life comes to pass with humanity eventually driving can be very dangerous. Let them know you are only saying it for their benefit because you couldn't stand it if something happened. Let them know that you have the ultimate respect for them as a person and you value their experiences, their mentoring, and their intelligence. But gently remind them that often physical issues begin to endanger them on the road. Tell them it is certainly not their mind; rather it is because they can't see as well as they used to, or they shake a little, or they are hearing impaired (whatever is going on). Tell them this has been very difficult for you to discuss but you care about them enough to approach the subject. If they become agitated, simply tell them to at least give it some thought. The eventuality of it is that the DMV at some point is going to revoke their right to drive. Heck, doctors can do it too. I have a neurologist and he told the DMV that I have a bad leg and they took my license away. Just tell that person that it is an eventuality and a reality, such has been with every other part of life. Good luck. My grandmother was furious so my Dad disabled her car. And the other Granny is so dramatic that we dramatically recounted every horrible thing we could think of on the roadways. Danger at every turn. She never drove again. But a co-worker is different.
Unless your relationship to this older person is something more than a co-worker, I don't think it is your place to convince them not to drive. If you are really concerned about their safety on the road perhaps you should try to contact a family member or a very close personal friend of this older person and tell them your concerns. It is right for the family to address this issue. Maybe alright for a close friend to address this issue but not appropriate for a co-worker unless this individual is truly alone in the world with no family or friends to look out for him/her. In that case, Speak to them openly and honestly and ask for their cooperation. If they refuse to stop driving contact DMV and ask them what their procedure is for terminating driving privileges of the elderly.